Chapter 2, Seagraves Road, Coventry, CT 1952-1960

 Seagraves Road, Coventry 1952-1960

We moved to 26 (I don't remember the houses having numbers back then) Seagraves Road, Coventry, Connecticut in 1952. Dad had gone into partnership in a Shell Station with Bill Dorsey. Their company was D&H (Dorsey and Hotchkiss) Auto Service, 1960 South Street (between Beebe Farms Road and Camposio Drive). Our new house seemed huge but in reality it wasn’t. Mom and dad had a big bedroom with a walk-in closet. I think originally the house only had one bedroom. Sandy’s room was once the front sun porch. I don’t remember where my room was the first couple of years. Rooms were added onto the original cottage until it became kind of a rambling ranch house. The front door used to be into the sun porch but it was never used. The entrance was between the dining room and what became my brother Doug's and my bedroom.

From the left side of the house was the garage, then a bedroom. The original house is the right section. Along Seagraves Rd. was a row of fir trees that blocked to house from the street.

At some point Mom had the garage converted into a room, albeit an unheated one. I don't remember how it was finished other than she had a brick fireplace built. I know we held at least one Christmas in that room and my sister Sandy had a party there, my brother Doug and I were real pests. 

I think for us three kids Seagraves Road was the best time of our life. Our family was intact and life was good. Our house was on a fairly large lot, a half acre if I’m correct. Most of the houses in the immediate area were on smaller lots. There were a couple of cottages behind our house. On the corner of Seagraves and South Street, facing South Street, was the house the 'old man' lived in. I don’t remember his name or that of anyone else who lived in the house. Our house was the first that faced Seagraves. The Gray’s lived next to us and then the Forsts. After the Forst’s house was a shack of a place full of kids and love. It really wasn’t much of a house; it didn’t have running water or an indoor toilet. It did have a pump in the kitchen sink. And they had an old hand crank phonograph. I guess they were poor but we didn’t realize it.

Further down Seagraves lived the Dorys, Mrs. Covell (Sandy’s and my piano teacher), and the Murrays. Many of the neighborhood kids played in our yard because it was bigger but most of them were older than I was with the exception of Tommy Forst who was a year younger. Gary Gray, Russ Dory and Tim Murray were two years older.

We lived on Seagraves from 1952 until the fall of 1960. It seems like we lived there forever but I guess eight years is a lifetime to kids.

Whoever owned Seagraves before us cared for the place. There was a flower garden (Mom called it a rock garden) along the left side of the driveway that had the most beautiful daffodils in the spring. There were a row of fir trees at the front of the property and a big weeping willow tree in the middle of the front yard (we used to break off branches to make whips and pretend we were Zorro). In the summer when the willow was full it was like an oasis from the summer heat. Out back there was a large oak tree. Dad hung an old tire from one of the branches to make a tire swing. Along the backside of the garage was a group of lilac bushes, a bit overgrown but so beautiful in bloom. There was also a crab apple and cherry tree. Mom drove a school bus for the Coventry Day School for a time. I know she drove at least right up until just a week before my brother Doug was born on April 11, 1953. She said it snowed on the day he was born.

So many memories from Seagraves, most good. Christmas was always great. Mom would always pack our stockings with comics and coloring books to keep us occupied while dad slept. It seems like we always had a big breakfast and then – Ta-Dah – dad would pass out the gifts. I remember one year, once all the gifts had been handed out, I asked mom if there wasn’t one more. She seemed puzzled so I ran to her closet and pulled out one more gift. I didn’t know what it was but I knew where it was hidden!

For some reason we used to go through mom and dad’s bureaus; both had a junk drawer. Dad had all sorts of neat stuff in his, some from the military, some just stuff from different places. There were some Sheriff badges from Coventry (Coventry did not have its own police department until the ‘60s and they used to hand out badges to just about anyone that wanted one).

In among dad’s stuff were some letters from his mom, my grandmother, when he was in Belgium during the last year of the war. In one letter my grandmother chastised him for “falling in love” with a Belgium girl and to remember he had a wife back home. Grandma Hotchkiss was like that, she’d tell you to just stop being foolish (she later did it to me). (It seems like I am the only one who remembers this.)

Dad had been in supply for the Army during World War II. He had 'accumulated' a lot of stuff. The bunk bed Doug and I slept in (and in New Britain Sandy and I) was Army issue. We had so many Army issue green, itchy wool blankets that I figured that was what everyone used. We had four or five field telephones - they were great for giving an electric buzz to anyone daring enough to place a finger on both posts. Dad had a couple M1 Garands along with about a thousand rounds of ammo, helmets, sleeping bags (Dad called them 'mummy sacks', and they were that same itchy wool) and so much more stuff.

Summers were great because we lived close to the lake (Wangumbaug Lake, otherwise known as Coventry Lake) and had the right to use the beach in Waterfront Park. For a year or two they showed movies on a big sheet there. Unfortunately I was plagued with ear infections for a few summers; probably because the houses around the lake fouled the lake.

Dad’s garage, D&H, was only a few minutes away. I used to love going there. There was a little mezzanine over the bathroom that had all kinds of gas station stuff (probably worth a fortune now). I probably saw my first risque art up in that mezzanine. Many gas station ads and calendars showed shapely women scantily dressed. Hot stuff for a kid. If I was good Dad would let me have a soda from the cooler out front. I idolized my Dad but he really wasn't there for me that much.

Imagine this with two gas pumps on a small island, a soda cooler to the left of the office door.

A couple of events stand out in my mind about Dad and the Shell Station. One day when I was at the gas station (I must have been off school for some reason) Dad got a call from a woman he knew (I found out many years later that he was having an affair with her); her house had been invaded by squirrels. Honestly. The assumption was they came down the chimney and couldn't get out. Dad threw a few burlap sacks in the pack of his Ford F-1 pickup, and he, Carl Sweager (sp?), and I, headed off to the rescue. I remember standing completely still in the living room of the house on Dorothy Drive as Dad and Carl chased squirrels around the house. Carl got bit real badly and had to get stitches.

I went to kindergarten in the basement of the Community Center and made some lifetime friends there.

There was also a time when I was in first grade. This was at the old school house at the corner of Main Street and School Street. There was a slight rise from Main Street to the school and some of us kids were rolling down the "hill" at recess. I got nauseous. Dad was called and came and got me. On the way back to the station he stopped for lunch at Gorris' place on South Street. All of a sudden my nausea was gone and I wanted to eat.

We, as a family, had friends. The Gronbacks, and the Morgans (there were two Morgan families in town, we knew Helen and Ford Morgan. They lived on Merrow Road, and had horses and a great pond. Mrs. Morgan used to make home-made root beer.

Around 1958 Dad moved his business. At first he was going to rent the gas station that is now Coventry Pizza (1467 South Street) but for some reason that didn't work out. He ended up at what is now Coventry Automotive (2767 Boston Turnpike). That didn't last.

This new looking restaurant was once a Texaco station @ 1467 South Street.

I don't remember what brand this was when Dad had his shop here @ 2767 Boston Turnpike.

In either late 1959 or early 1960 dad closed his business and went to work for a friend, Al Booth, at a factory in Willington, CT. 

All though the years on Seagraves I had some really good friends. There were kids in the neighborhood, Burt (then Bud) Hansen, Pete Hoffman, John Howland (we all went to kindergarten together), a distant cousin Philip Gronback, Joey Maulucci, I'm probably forgetting many because it seemed like I had so many friends.

Some memories from Seagraves - We were Protestants and there were two Congregational churches in Coventry, the First Congregational Church in South Coventry and the Second Congregational Church in North Coventry. For some reason we went to the North although our house was about equal distance to either. I doubt that Dad went with us every Sunday but my memories are of us going as a family. We kids went to Sunday School and then the service. Often we would then drive to Clarence's downtown (South Coventry) to get the Sunday Hartford Courant.

I broke my right collar bone at our house on Seagraves. I was riding on the crossbar of Gary Gray's bike and fell off; Gary then ran over me (not his fault). I am sure I cried. I think it was in May. I ended up with a cast (X-shaped) for almost the whole summer. I couldn't go swimming!

We used to play in the Nathan Hale State Forest across the street from us. Directly across the street was a swamp and further down Seagraves there was a pine forest. One day, probably a Sunday, a cousin, Betty Jean Lacells, was visiting. Late in the afternoon, as she was getting ready to leave, we couldn't find my brother Doug. Everybody, Mom, Dad, Betty Jean, Sandy, neighbors, and I scoured the swamp and forest. We couldn't find him anywhere. I think Mom was just about ready to call the State Police (Coventry didn't have its own police force yet) or the Fire Department to help find him. For some reason Betty Jean decided to search the house - yup he was sound asleep UNDER his bed!

My sister, Sandy, sent me what she remembered about the Seagraves house - "I do remember that what became Hotch's and your bedroom eventually, was a screened in porch when we first got there.  So, you and I shared the sunporch for a bedroom.  Closing in that porch was the first remodeling I remember--it became the front door and hall, and our bedroom.  I think moving the door to the porch came later, and the coat closet was put there then.  Not sure why you and I shared the new bedroom; but I remember sleeping in the top bunk there.

The next remodeling was building a kitchen where the open porch had been, making the entry to the kitchen from the dining room where a window had been, excavating more of the basement (and new access), and adding a new porch to the back.  I think that's when the coat closet got put in from of where there had been a door to the porch.  Oh, and the wall between the dining room and the hallway got a large opening to make the room feel bigger.

When Hotch was almost ready to move out of the crib; they added a closet to the sunroom, papered it in a girly flowered wallpaper and bought a daybed for me.

I don't remember when the garage got paneled, or why they thought we needed a fireplace out there.

Oh, and the "rock garden" was on the opposite side of the front lawn from the driveway; and there was a house between ours and the "old man"--my friend Betty Bednarz lived there for a while."

 

Chapter 1 - Leahy Court, New Britain, CT 1949-1952

This is my autobiography. I've found it's much easier to write about cars than about myself. I've tried to write it down as I remember it, or as I've been able to find out with research.

I tend to divide my life around where I lived. The Connecticut years started in New Britain, a period I really don’t remember except through what I’ve been told and seen in photographs.  Then there were the Seagraves Road, Coventry, CT years followed by the Dark Ages otherwise known as Bridgeport, and South Street in Coventry, then the turning point of Wall Street and Avery Shores Drive, Coventry.

Connecticut was the first twenty years, March 1949 to July 1969.

Canada came next from July 1969 to December 1990 (Ottawa, Toronto, Ottawa, Pickering, and Toronto again). At the end of 1990, California became my home (South San Francisco, Pacifica, Pleasanton, Tracy) except for four years (December 2010 to September 2014) in North Las Vegas, Nevada.

Within each place I lived are the sub-sections of people and where I worked.

New Britain 1949-1952

I was born at 4:58 PM, on March 28, 1949, in New Britain General Hospital, New Britain, Connecticut. Of course I don’t remember being born at all. I do remember some of my first few years, the years we lived in New Britain, or at least I think I do. I could be remembering things I’ve been told.

Yup that's me.

I was the second son (the first, John Edward Hotchkiss, died shortly after birth) and second of three children (after my sister Sandra Jean Hotchkiss and before my brother Douglas John Hotchkiss) of Elaine C. Hotchkiss (nee Clark) and William C. Hotchkiss. We lived at 37A Leahy Court in Army Barracks converted to duplexes for returning G.I.s. Each side had four rooms (two bedrooms, kitchen/dining room, living room) and a bathroom.

This is my family on my Dad's side taken in 1952. Back row from left: Laura Ann Donahue (cousin in her father's arms), Leo Donahue (uncle), Elaine C. Hotchkiss (Mom), William C. Hotchkiss (Dad), Gordon B. Hotchkiss (Grandfather), Gilbert Hotchkiss (uncle). Front row from left: Sandra Hotchkiss (sister), Lucille Hotchkiss (aunt and wife of Gilbert), Bruce Hotchkiss (me), Dorothy Hotchkiss (Grandmother), Gregg Hotchkiss (cousin and Lucille and Gilbert's first), Cyrus J. Hotchkiss (Great-grandfather), Laura Donahue (aunt, wife of Leo and my dad's sister), and Richard Donahue (cousin with his mom). Mom was not happy because dad didn't dress up.

Although my memories are limited I do remember my mom had her upright piano and we had a TV in the living room. It must have been a crowded living room. I remember mom singing “Little Curly Hair In A High Chair” to me (I had curly blond hair):

Little curly hair in a high chair
What's your order for today
Little curly hair in a high chair
I'll do anything you say
When you're near the room seems to brighten
The sun comes streaming through you're eyes
You're the reason they still keep writin'
All those tender lullabies
Hm, there you go
Bangin' with your blocks
Pullin' off your socks
Hm, there you go
Tryin' to make your toes
Touch your baby nose
Heaven's close to your chair and my chair
When you smile the way you do
Little curly hair in a high chair
My day begins and ends with you

I know I did a somersault off the top bunk of a bunk bed but I don’t remember it – my sister told me the story. My sister was my best friend and playmate. Sandy is three years older than I am. There was a field behind the houses with a small wooded area and a hill with a water tank at the top. In the spring the field was full of Black-eyed Susans and Buttercups. Sandy taught me “she loves me, she loves me not” as you pluck off the petals of the Black-eyed Susans and showed me that you could find out if someone liked butter by holding a Buttercup under their chin to see if there was a yellow reflection.

My time in New Britain was idyllic but for some reason I don’t remember much of my dad. I know he worked long hours as a mechanic. I think he worked at a Texaco station. It was near a firehouse, I do remember that. A firehouse with a brass pole to slide down. Dad took us there at least once.

My Uncle Kenny (mom’s younger brother who was in the Navy and saw action in the South Pacific), Aunt Rose, and Cousin Judy lived nearby.

My grandparents on my mom’s side, Frank and Edna Clark, lived at 57 Ridgewood Street. My dad’s parents, Gordon and Dorothy Hotchkiss, lived at 38 Foxon Place. I have fond memories of both houses, probably more of Ridgewood because my grandparents lived there until 1979. My grandfather Hotchkiss died in 1952 and not long after that my grandmother moved to Kensington to live with her father-in-law, my great-grandfather, Cyrus Hotchkiss, on (272?) Corbin Avenue near Doerr’s Pond.

57 Ridgewood Street, New Britain as it is today. 

38 Foxon Place, New Britain as it is today. 

Our car was a 1949 Packard, a huge 4-door sedan. I think dad drove it most of the time; I’m pretty sure we were a one car family. I don’t know how we afforded it. Maybe dad got a lump sum when he left the Army? A Super Eight was just over $2,600 brand new in ’49.

Dad painted our Packard a couple of times trying to get this color. It was close. (This is not our car.)

Pictures of houses are taken from Google Maps.

Why Am I The Way I Am?

Taking a short hiatus from posting political and/or religious topics on Facebook got me thinking about how I came to my world view. What makes me so different from so many of my friends and family? The answer will probably never be known but I'll try to deconstruct my life.

I think I was always a little different. My earliest memories don't seem so different but then who really remembers their life in the first two or three years? Life seems to have been idyllic for the first couple of years in New Britain but I know they probably weren't. My memories are of playing in the Buttercups and Black-eyed Susans in the field behind our temporary housing for returning GIs. I remember my mother singing to me, My Little Curly Hair In A High Chair. My memories of my father are faint.

I remember moving to Coventry and how wonderful and big it seemed. There were flowers all over and a giant Weeping Willow in the front yard, a cherry crab apple and large oak in the back yard. Life was pretty good I guess.

Somewhere along the line though I became aware of inequities in our country. I remember some of the voters' rights marches in the south, the standoff at Old Miss, things like that. I remember in either the 5th or 6th grade there were some of us who wanted to lawyers; we wanted to defend the wrongly accused. We watched Perry Mason, The Defenders and any other lawyer shows I've forgotten.

It must have been in the early '60s that I really became politicized (although I don't think I realized that was what it was). Things just didn't feel right. LBJ declare war on poverty and I, along with so many others, found it abhorrent that so many in this great country lived in squalor because they couldn't afford anything better.

By the mid-60s we were fully engaged in Vietnam, a war I just couldn't wrap my head around. First there was the self-immolation by monks. How could anyone do that? They must be desperate.

Then came the assassination of Ngo Dinh Diem, the President of South Vietnam. Ultimately we found out that this was a CIA backed coup d'etat.

All of that is background to my own experiences that started with being drafted in February 1969. Drafted to go fight in a war I did not believe in at all. Drafted to be cannon fodder.

I'll admit that being drafted, being torn from my comfortable (more or less) left, was traumatic. I had no desire to go anywhere. My whole life was in east central Connecticut. I tried like hell to avoid going but it was to no avail. It seemed to me that my options were severely limited. So I submitted.

I figured what the heck I'd get an easy job as a mechanic or truck driver, things that I knew a bit about. But my Uncle Sam had a different idea. Vietnam was in full swing. The months of January, February and March 1969 saw the Army draft 30,000 men (boys really) a month.

The Army was worse than I expected but really no worse for me than anyone else except I was not athletic. Fate intervened and I became sick, well double-pneumonia. I then witnessed first hand the callousness of the Army. I passed out during morning inspection; a couple of guys including the one who caught me as I fell said I turned ashy white and thought I was dead. I just couldn't breathe.

But I passed out after sick call so I was on my own. I walked to the infirmary and after being berated for malingering I was told I had to go to the hospital for chest x-rays. Except I'd missed the bus so I had to walk. Which I did. And then I had to walk back to the infirmary where I was told I should have brought the x-rays back with me so I had to walk back to the hospital. Thankfully someone at the hospital took a look at the x-ray and I was immediately put into a ward.

During the time I was in the hospital there was an outbreak of spinal meningitis and soldiers died. There was a Congressional investigation. It made those of us in the pneumonia ward feel so secure.

The only good thing about getting pneumonia is that I got out of Fort Dix on a six week medical leave. That was the start of the next chapter in my life.

Friends and Why

As I sat down to write this, this piece about friendships come and gone, and some come again, this song by Robert Earl Keen came on Pandora and seemed appropriate.

Coming Home of the Son and Brother

Time for the singer

Time for the singer boy to make his way home

A prodigal I’ve been distressed

This lonely child can’t make it on his own

I’ve been traveling states away

I’ve been playing in a bluegrass band

Now it’s the coming home

Of the son and brother again
Time has slipped away

I don’t know if I can play another tune

They want me to build single handed

A road up to the moon

They only pay me nickels and dimes

In a game that I can never win

So it’s the coming home

Of the son and brother again
It’s been a long long time

Since I’ve seen all of my family and friends

I want to hear them tell their stories

Tell ‘em all about the places I have been

So open all your doors up wide

Invite all the neighbors in

For the coming home

Of the son and brother again

A couple of days ago I posted pictures from what shoulda/woulda been my high school year book (I didn’t get in the year book because I dropped out – twice). The pictures were of three friends from early high school; Bud Hansen, Stan Ferrell and Tony Hansen.  Another friend, Pete Hoffman, emailed me and apologized if it was his fault we had drifted apart. It wasn’t Pete, it really wasn’t.

My life has been periods of ups and downs in many, many ways. My early life, let’s say from birth (1949) to Sixth grade (1961) was a pretty normal, middleclass, rural life. For those twelve years I had basically the same circle of friends, some school friends, some neighborhood friends and some both. Twelve years is a long time for some friendships.

But in 1961 my life, or my family’s life, took a nose dive. We started the school year in Coventry but I think in late October we moved to Bridgeport. The move, even if everything else had gone well, was hell for us kids (my older sister Sandy, younger brother Doug, and me) because we went from a very idyllic rural life to living in a “big” dirty, ugly city. For the first time in our lives we encountered other races, mainly African American and Latinos, (I think there were two African-American families in Coventry) in fairly large numbers. Sandy was just starting high school and her school had a split day – one group went in the morning and one in the afternoon.

But everything else didn’t go well. It was the end for my mom and dad – they split, reconciled, and split again. Each one of us kids dealt, or didn’t, with it in a different way.

Early spring we moved back to Coventry. I don’t remember that much about school when we got back. I think I ended up in a different class than where my friends. But that wasn’t the hardest part.

I think we all tried to be “normal” but let’s face it, we weren’t. We now came from a broken family. And we were poor. Mom was a teacher but there were no teaching jobs available when we moved back. She finally found a job with some small manufacturing company South Windham but it didn’t pay much. We lived in an apartment on South Street, some old 3-story Victorian house that had been made into apartments. We lived on the second floor.

September 1962, I entered 7^th grade, then at the one year old Coventry High School. I was with most of my friends still. Coventry like I guess many schools had different levels for each class (something like A, B, C & D) with A being the “smart” kids. I, along with most of my friends, was in the A class. But something was wrong with me. I had been a pretty good academic in grade school but my mind just wasn’t there anymore. Later on in life I realized that I like so many children from a busted marriage blamed myself – if only I had been a better person, blah, blah, blah. At the time I just knew something was wrong with the world and somehow I was a square peg in a round hole.

As happens so often with kids who have lost their way my grades suffered. Maybe not immediately but by the time 9^th grade came I was no longer in the A group. I started acting up, barely passing classes I should have aced. I just didn’t give a shit.

More than likely this affected friendships. I wasn’t in the same classes as my friends anymore so we didn’t hang out together as much. I became a “bad” kid. I smoked, swore and didn’t really fit in with anyone.

Sure I still had friends – Bud from my original group of friends hung in there with me for a bit – but some of my friends were different now.

But I guess I’m off track. My point, the point about friendship, is that they have come and gone. I think I’m to blame. I don’t know why. Oh the best friends I’ve had, so many that I’ve left behind. I moved either emotionally or physically. Maybe it was a defense, to be unemotional so that when the inevitable happens and we are no longer near each other I don’t feel the loss.

Now I’m an old man and sometimes I do feel alone and I wish I had my friends around me. I’ve become a solitary guy. I have Nadine. But really no one else. Part of me is afraid to become close to anyone because it hurts so much when they leave. But still I miss the friendships I’ve had.

I’ve connected with some friends through Facebook. I wonder what they think of me now. Do they think that all the ranting and raving I do is strange?

I sometimes envy them, especially those that stayed so close to home and at the same time I wonder how they put up with it. Yes I miss Coventry and Connecticut but whenever I’m back I feel that I’m being drawn into a time that has passed. There seems to be a complacency that I don’t have and haven’t for so long.

I’ve probably rambled for too long. To all my friends throughout my life, thank you. None of you left me; I left you for reasons therapy would take years to unravel. But I never really left you; I am what I am, at least in part, because of all of you. And if we were physically close again you’d see far too much of me. I can’t list all of the people in my life but I’ll do the best I can. In no particular order; Pete Hoffman, Burt (you’ll always be Bud to me) Hansen, Barry Hansen, Tony Hansen, Stan Ferrell, Bernie Costello, Ronnie Anderson, John Fraser, Richard Brownie, Brian Schwarkopf, Mike Thomas, Tony Leopardo, Danny Dorval, Mark French (who I spent a few weeks with in a haze after leaving the army), Al LaRocque, Pete Crowley, Paul Morgan and some of the girls too; Linda Hazen Adamson, Linda Canfield Garrison, Sue Douville. I miss you all.

Musicians

We went to a show at the Venetian tonight. I get two free passes every time I donate blood (every ninety days but I usually wait for tickets to something we'll like). This time the tickets were for a group named "Human Nature."

Human Nature is a four white guys from Australia who sing (basically) Motown songs. They put on a good show.

Seeing Human Nature got the wheels in my head turning back to when my first wife, Ruth, worked with musicians and other artists, first when she worked for UNICEF, then when she was with a dance company, and then on her own as an artist representative.

I got to meet more than a few artists, some actually famous, at various functions and gigs around Toronto and such.

Human Nature piqued a memory about a UNICEF event for something, I really can't remember what. I remember it was held at a restaurant on the second floor on Bloor Street West. And Eddie Kendricks, formally of the Temptations, was there along with some Canadian artists and actors.

As usual Ruth promised she just had to take care of a little business and that she'd spend time with me (I really hated going to these artsy things because I am about the anti-thesis of artsy). Anyway it never worked out; Ruth would go do her business and that would be the last I'd see of her until she decided it was time to go.

So I was just hanging out, being a wallflower, when Eddie Kendricks came over and leaned against the wall with me. He was a kick for sure. Kendricks was a real hound dog, regaling another guy and myself with stories about how he'd like to get it on with just about every good looking woman in the crowd. There we were, three guys who really didn't want to be there, talking crap about the women (man look at the ... on that one) in the room.

Then there was the time we went to the pre-opening party for the Irish Rovers Pub on Bloor Street. The Rovers were associated with UNICEF Canada so Ruth got the invite. And as usual I ended up being left alone. So I found a corner to hide in and ended up having a damn good time. The corner happened to be at the back of the pub and they'd set up a mountain of raw oysters. I'd never had oysters before but I learned to like them that night. There were two others that sat themselves next to the oysters too - a good-looking woman and one of the Rovers, I think one of the Millars but not the leader Will.

The rumor was it cost a million dollars to open the bar. It lasted less than a year.

I would say the absolute nicest artist I met was Richie Havens. Ruth did some work for a record company he recorded with and there was a party someplace that I went to with her. Richie was the sweetest, most unpretentious and sincere artist I've ever met.

Then there was Dave Edmunds who was at a Concert for Kampuchea thing. I like Dave Edmunds but he really wasn't that big. But you wouldn't have known it from the way he acted. For almost the whole get together he was either talking to a music critic or standing in a corner behind a body guard.

I think the first time I met some famous people it was by accident. We had gone to Stratford, Ontario to see Peter Ustinov in King Lear. Ustinov did a lot of volunteer work for UNICEF Canada and Ruth got tickets. We sat in about the third row center and directly next to me was Gena Roland and next to her John Cassavettes, her husband. I hardly remember the play.

I got to meet Ustinov at a film shoot for UNICEF. Peter Ustinov and Maggie Smith had both agreed to make some PSAs for UNICEF and I sat through the entire event - being ignored by my wife of course.

There were others, many Canadian artists of varying stature. Brent Titcomb, who had been in a group named 3's A Crowd in the '60s. Brent was a well respected singer and sometimes songwriter. Ron Nigrini, another singer/songwriter, and one of the hardest working guys around. Ron's biggest problem in my opinion was that he was too nice a guy to make it in a cut throat business but he made a living at it.

Through Ron Nigrini, Ruth and I met Rich Dodson of the Stampeders, who owned a Canadian record label and was a producer.

There was Daisy DeBolt who during the '60s was half of a duo named Fraser & DeBolt. Daisy was a character for sure. She had a great voice but she just was too out there for me. I remember once she did a showcase at the Brunswick House. I forget exactly how much she was getting paid but I think it was $1,000 for the night. Daisy seemed to think that every gig was a party so she gathered about eight or nine musical friends to accompany her and promised each one $100 for the night. Ruth got stiffed for the work she did.

Daisy was in a play. I wish I could remember the name of it. It played at some "hotel" (bar) in Western Ontario. It was a pretty good play too and should have gone further.

Ruth's time with the modern dance company was probably the worst for me. I got dragged to so many modern dance shows that I began to dread them. I'm sorry but those people are weird. I've seen so much "interpretive" dance that meant absolutely nothing to me. The only saving grace was that some of women, and some of the men, seen to interpret life naked. It's difficult to look someone in the eye after you've seen every square inch of their body.

I'm glad I can say I've met some of these people but for me, sitting in a hotel room talking about racing with Dan Gurney was so much more important.

Everyone has a skeleton in the closet don't they?

There was a time in my life when I wasn't exactly a saint. Sure there was the normal teenage stuff - driving too fast, smoking the tires, drinking, sex, some drugs but there was more. There was a time when I did some things that could have put me in jail.

I can't remember the dates of these events and they weren't always my idea. (Usually if I wanted to steal something I did it on my own.)

Bennie and the Harley - My sister's first husband was a piece of work. I looked up to him and hated him at the same time. He was fearless while I was not. But I never could have lived his lifestyle.

One night I went over to their house, they were living near Daly Road and Rte 32. My sister wasn't there but Ben asked if I'd give him a ride someplace. Of course I said okay. He gave me directions out toward the Lucky Strike Lanes. As we passed a house he told me to make a u-turn and park. Ben got out of the car, ran across the street and disappeared into the darkness.

Next thing I knew he came running out pushing a motorcycle. As he ran past me he hopped on the bike, yelled "follow me" and bump started the bike. I was stunned but I followed him back to my sisters place. He, I guess we, stole someone's Harley. I don't remember much about the bike except it was chopped some with a huge rear tire.

The VW engine - This happened one night, again I can't remember when. My friend Danny picked me up in his '62 Impala. There were a total of four of us in the car, Danny, Jimmy Shelto, someone else I can't remember, and me. We were going somewhere but Jimmy asked if we could make a quick stop someplace. He directed Danny to parking spot just up the hill from Pelletier's Chevron.

Jimmy got out of the car, opened the trunk and disappeared for about ten minutes. When he came back his hands were greasy and he wanted all of us to get out and help him. We walked to a nearby driveway where there was a VW Beetle with the engine on the ground. We lifted the VW up while Jimmy slid the engine out, then the four of us carried it to Danny's car. The engine fit nicely in the trunk. I guess Jimmy needed an engine.

We heard the next day that the owner of the VW pushed it to Pelletier's because it wouldn't start.

Franc Chevrolet - Not every caper was successful. My buddy Stan and I headed out to Franc Chevrolet on River Road in Willington. I'm pretty sure I was a willing participant in this caper. I don't remember why but Stan wanted a 4-speed and he knew they had a Camaro with one. We drove out in Stan's GTO, parked way back on Baxter Road and lugged a couple of jacks and some tools over towards Franc.

We crossed the road north of the parking lot and walked along the railroad tracks until we got to the back of where the Camaro was parked. We set up the jacks, and raised the car. Stan did most of the work and in no time the trans was almost out. Then a car pulled into the lot.

I don't remember if it was the police (if it was it must have been the State Police) or not but we hightailed it down the embankment, over the tracks and into a marsh next to the river. We stayed there for over an hour, soaking wet, scared shitless. They (whoever) didn't find us but Stan lost two bottle jacks of his dad's and some tools.

We slogged north through the swamp, crossed River Road and sprinted up Baxter to Stan's GTO. We did get home without getting caught. I think we came up with some story about the GTO getting stuck in the mud and losing the jacks in the dark.

I am not celebrating these incidents. They happened a long time ago and I'm not proud of that part of my life but I can't deny it. I believe I learned from them and grown.

Memories of Coventry

It's funny how my mind works. "Poison ivy" popped up on the TV and my mind went to my sister Sandy who used to have a severe reaction to poison ivy and poison sumac (I don't know if she still does, have to ask her). Seems she used to spend a good part of each summer covered with calamine lotion.

My mind then went to our home on Seagraves Road in Coventry, and what a wonderful time and place it was. From when we moved there in 1952 until we moved out to Bridgeport in 1960 was a very idyllic time, a very white bread, TV perfect time (not in reality but in memory for sure).

Our ranch house sat on about a half acre; there was a beautiful oak tree in the back yard, a huge weeping willow out front and a row of pine trees along Seagraves. I remember a cherry tree and a crab apple tree, lilacs, morning glories - so many flowers (the previous owner planted all kinds of flora). The house itself was really an expanded cottage like so many others in Coventry (Coventry used to be a summer place for people from Hartford, New Haven, and even New York City) but it was a castle to us kids.

Across the street was the Nathan Hale State Forest. Directly across from us there was a swamp full of skunk cabbage. Down the street, with an old road across from the Forrest's was the dry pine forest. We used to go in there and make lean-to huts out of downed pine boughs.

I remember in the spring and early summer we used to go out to South Street just a bit towards the Nathan Hale Homestead and pick wild strawberries from the side of the road. They were tiny but so sweet! If we went down Seagraves toward where the Dory's lived there were blackberry or raspberry plants growing wild.

My brother Doug (Hotch) was born while we lived on Seagraves. He used to cause us all kinds of trouble and fun. I remember once when we had relatives over, must have been some kind of family picnic, Doug disappeared. I remember my mom and dad frantically searching the woods - all the neighbors were involved. Everyone was sure he was trapped in the swamp or something else terrible had become of him. My cousin Betty Jean Lacelles eventually found him asleep in our bedroom. I can't remember for sure but I think for some reason he was under the bed. He'd just gone inside to play, gotten tired and fell asleep.

My mind keeps wandering - My mom and dad had a nice circle of friends. Some were from the American Legion Post 57, one family was related to my dad (the Gronbacks) and one, the Morgan's I think from my dad's service station.

The Morgan's lived on a large "estate" in on North River Road, North Coventry. There was Ford and Helen, and four boys of which I can only remember two, John and Paul (Paul was my age). The Morgan's had horses (Morgan horses of course), a large pond (that used to be part of a fish hatchery, rabbits, chickens, probably a cow or two. We used to spend a lot of time at the Morgan's. Mrs. Morgan seemed like a perfect TV mom, always cooking, always dressed nicely, etc. I remember she used to make root beer and ice cream from scratch.

I think my mind has stopped reminiscing for now.